I quit my last role as CMO of a startup because my former boss accused me of losing focus after I missed a few team calls. Why? Because my son had emergency room visits and doctor’s appointments.
That wasn’t the first time I was blamed for being a responsible mother - and it wasn’t the first time I encountered workplace discrimination for it.
The Reality of Being a Working Parent
Being a working mom isn’t just juggling two full-time jobs - it’s living in a world that expects you to work like you don’t have kids and parent like you don’t have a job.
My day starts at 3:30 AM. Not because I love waking up before the sun, but because it’s the only way I can have a somewhat normal life - one where I can:
- Have breakfast without checking emails at the same time.
- Do the school run without feeling guilty.
- Make homemade meals instead of relying on takeout.
- Actually spend time with my child instead of squeezing in moments between meetings.
- And, of course, still work at a high level in a demanding role.
So when my boss told me I had lost focus, my immediate reaction was: This isn’t the place I want to work, and he isn’t the boss I want to work for.
It took me exactly two seconds to make up my mind.
Boss, you’re fired.
(And yes, I did say it in my head with Donald Trump’s famous Apprentice voice.)
The Numbers Don’t Lie: Working Parents Are Struggling
I’m not alone in this. Millions of working parents - especially mothers - face the same struggles every day.
- 43% of highly qualified women leave their jobs after having children, often due to a lack of workplace support. (Harvard Business Review)
- Over 70% of working parents say they have experienced career penalties for prioritizing their families. (McKinsey & Company)
- One in three mothers has considered downshifting their careers or leaving the workforce entirely due to burnout. (Lean In & McKinsey’s Women in the Workplace Report)
- Fathers who take paternity leave are still stigmatized, with many fearing it will hurt their career progression.
The message is clear: The modern workplace is still failing parents.
The Companies Getting It Right
But not all companies are stuck in the past. Some are leading the way in supporting working parents - and proving that flexibility and success can go hand in hand.
- Salesforce: Offers generous parental leave, backup childcare, and flexible work arrangements.
- Microsoft: Provides 20 weeks of paid parental leave and strong support for parents returning to work.
- Spotify: Gives six months of fully paid parental leave and encourages employees to take it.
- Patagonia: Runs on-site childcare centers and has a 94% retention rate for mothers.
- PwC: Offers "returnship" programs to help parents re-enter the workforce after a career break.
These companies understand that supporting parents isn’t a perk - it’s a necessity.
Do I Regret Quitting?
Yes.
I regret not quitting sooner.
But one good thing came out of it: It inspired me to write this post.
Because if you’re a working parent struggling to keep up, feeling guilty for missing a meeting, or being made to feel like you’re less valuable because you have a family - you are not alone.
And if you’re in a workplace that doesn’t respect your reality, maybe it’s time to say:
Boss, you’re fired.